What kind of friends are you friends with?

Romans 12:1-2

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

From verse 2, we can see that God wants us to be set apart. Remember: we are in this world, but not of the world. Our job as Christians, is to be in the world and share the gospel. But not conform to the world like so many people are doing today, and giving the excuse that being part of the world will help you witness better. Listen to what 1 Peter 2:9 says. But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light;

Even though that’s talking about the Children of Israel, we can still apply it to our lives and be seperate.

So, what kind of friends do you hang out with? It’s good to have friends. But you need to make sure you have the right kind of friends. Does your friends listen to what the world listens to, do they follow the wrong crowd just so they can fit in? Just so they won’t be started at or frowned upon? It’s okay to be friends with a non-christian, but just make sure your life is being a witness to that person. And make sure you’re not being sucked in to the world. Non christians should notice a difference in Christians. A HUGE difference actually. Would it do if you told a non-christian you were a christian, and then said, oh, you listen to that music or singer?! I listen to them too!!   No!! Not at all. The non-christian would think you were a hypocrite.

Another way non-christians are watching you is by what comes out of your mouth. Do you have a word of encouragment for people, or do words of hurtfulness, and things that put people down, come out? A good friend will lift up another friend by using their words, when that one friend is feeling sad, or going through a hard time. And do you talk about things that aren’t important or don’t matter? It’s so important to use words that will lift up, and encourage, and bless others.

In order to have a friend, you need to be friendly. Proverbs 18:24 tells us this. A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.   And of course we know that’s Jesus. 

As a friend, you shouldn’t be talking bad about one person to another friend. You’re supposed to be a friend that loves at all times, even if one friend has hurt you in some way. Proverbs 17:9 says this: He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separatheth very friends. 

Then Proverbs 16:28 says:A froward man soweth strife: and a whisperer separatheth chief friends.

Be careful not to gossip. And don’t just be a friend to wealthy kids. Be a friend to the poor, to everyone. Cause everyone needs Jesus.


Here are two excellent verses.

Proverbs 27:6- Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. 

Proverbs 27:9- Ointment and perfume rejoice the heart: so doth the sweetness of a man’s friend by hearty counsel.

It’s good to rebuke a friend if they need it, but do it softly and in a gentle way. Help them along. Be harmless as doves, and wise as a serpent.

Here’s a saying I saw a couple days ago. A friend is a rare book of which but one copy is made 

Make your friendships count for Jesus, and make sure you have godly friends that don’t conform to the world’s deceiving ways.


4 thoughts on “What kind of friends are you friends with?

  1. Good post! 🙂 A few things I would like to point out. One, Peter is not speaking to Israel. He is speaking to Christian believers. Peter wasn’t only involved with the Jerusalem Church. In this verse, he is saying how Christians are the true people of God.

    Number two, some secular songs are okay. Not everything we listen to or watch or read has to be from a Christian standpoint. Yes, that does help keep us focused, but it is not necessary to only listen to Christian music or hymns or what have you. So long as the song does not detract from God or what is right, there’s no particular reason a Christian should not listen to it. And, just to clarify, small talk is fine! I think I know what you’re saying, dear, but I thought I’d put that out there, that there’s nothing wrong with small talk! 😀 Sometimes when people are stressed, they want to talk about things that aren’t important. So, again, like you said, a lot of discernment necessary!

    Very good post, and very encouraging! Great job!

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    1. Thanks! But I have to disagree with you on Peter wasn’t speaking to Jews. He was, and the Jews knew what he was saying.

      And I think small talk is fine. Like when friends talk about their lives and things. But we need to make sure our focus stays on Jesus, and have our speech seasoned with salt. 🙂

      On Tue, Jun 2, 2015 at 3:39 PM, Girls Living For God's Glory wrote:



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